February 2012
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You will figure it out
Imagine being alone in a dark hallway. You’re blindfolded and cannot see anything. You were told that there’s something beautiful waiting for you at the end but you’re not sure what the path to getting there looks like.
What do you do?
You put your hands out and begin feeling the walls for direction. You walk slowly until you feel comfortable enough to pick up the pace. The...
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Announcing The Bold Academy
Three weeks ago, I announced a vision for an unconventional school that I hoped to make a reality this summer in Boulder. Since then, I’ve been thinking big and making plans. And I’m happy to say that Nathaniel Koloc, my partner-in-crime and the co-founder of ReWork, will be joining me to make this dream come true. It’s called The Bold Academy, and we couldn’t be more...
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What we resist, persists
Annoyed. Frustrated. Stuck.
It’s 9:24 p.m. on Monday and I’m trying to figure out what the hell to write about for tomorrow.
I have three half-written posts about three topics that other people encouraged me to write about: passion and suffering, taking bold leaps, and how people are mirrors for self-understanding. None of these topics are clicking or flowing and I feel stuck.
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The ABC’s of Self Love: T is for Truth
I was asked to write about Truth as part of a blog series put together by Molly Mahar. She’s organized ablog crawl + Treasure Hunt where 26 women are writing about self-love.
“Do I need to lose weight?” I asked my Mom last September.
“You are in no way ‘overweight,’ but I think you could probably lose fifteen pounds,” she told me. “I think...
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Priorities and Plans: the keys to unlocking your...
I used to hate planning. It felt unnatural and forced. Life felt like less of a grand adventure. I enjoyed the thrill of spontaneity, improvisation, and watching things naturally fall into place.
For a while, this approach worked. I did things that interested me and opportunities fell into my lap. I felt in touch with the flow of life.
But then a point came when life stopped moving as...
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Build mastery through failure
My guy friend in New York is newly out of a long-term relationship. He wants to date, thinks he doesn’t know how, and feels afraid of rejection. Him being an incredibly compassionate and sharp man, this false belief is all in his head. Instead of telling him this, I decided to let him experience the answer for himself.
I encouraged him to ask five women out in one week. The first five...
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Aim to fail
“We want to take your muscles to failure,” my trainer said to me earlier today.
Soon after that statement, she changed her wording and said, “Actually, we want to take them to fatigue.”
“What’s the difference?” I said, “I love failing.”
Surprised at my response, she asked for clarification. A client of hers had reacted so negatively to the...
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Why I Secretly LOVE the Question "Where Do You See...
“Where do you see yourself in five years?”
I typically hate this question.
First off, it’s a classic interview question designed to test your commitment or loyalty to the organization that is thinking about hiring you. (And this often breeds dishonesty.)
Second, it tends to elicit a list of future milestones and hopeful accomplishments.
Neither of those are a sustaining...
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Letting Go: The Power of Closing Doors
Just five months ago, I had a major panic attack in my TriBeCa apartment. In the middle of hosting a weekly meeting with my team, my body began shutting down. I couldn’t breath properly and I felt such deep anger and anxiety that I didn’t know who I was in that moment. Tears began to form and I escaped to my bedroom to lie down.
As I lay in my bed, trying to catch my breath, my...