hey amber rae

a simple approach to being great at work, with friends & in bed

if you are dissatisfied with what someone else is doing — whether at work, in a friendship or in bed — this dissatisfaction is likely rooted in your inability to communicate clearly with that person.

we all have different expectations and styles. when we don’t express what we expect or want, we don’t get it.

similarly, if you feel anxious while collaborating with someone — whether at work, in a friendship or in bed — this anxiety is likely rooted in not knowing what the other person wants or likes.

how do you find out what the other person likes? you, very simply: 1) ask them what they like, 2) give it to them, 3) ask if they liked it, 4) if yes, repeat. if no, ask for feedback and try again.

seems very simple, yes?

it’s much easier to call out what someone else isn’t doing well enough by your standards. it’s far more difficult to put aside personal biases and set ways of doing things to discover how you might please the other person.

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